What Would a Woman Do To An Unconscious Man?
Things We Don't Want to Think About, But Must
Greetings from puppy-landia,
Quick doggie update: Thank goddess for my dog trainer, Noelle Jane Gerard of Jane Trains in Taos. She helped me with my late dog-friend Demi Goddess when she was a puppy; and now she is saving my sanity with Mystic. We’ve done two online sessions and wow I’m learning so much. I’ll share more about her unique training methods; for now I’m just doing my best to implement them and keep Mystic from eating all rugs, cords, and anything else she can vacuum into her mouth when someone looks away, and helping her find her way out from behind sheds where she insists on getting stuck. Ooof. It is a lot. And so rewarding and smushy-love heart-melting as well.
And now something challenging. Content warning: it is a really rough one to read with references to rape, sexual abuse, and murder.
I’ve been waiting for the right moment to share this impactful post from Anna Wharton on the trail of Dominique Pelicot and his fellow accused and the incredible courage of Gisèle Pelicot.
Today seems the perfect day, as Gisèle just announced she is coming out with a new book about her ordeal, Hymn to Life, next year.
I’m sharing Anna Wharton’s article below because I believe when we tell ourselves the truth of how some men behave, when we stop blaming women, when we stand up and ask questions, when we refuse to be ashamed, we come together for change. We must ask the hard questions, open our hearts to those most impacted, ask men to step up to stop the violence against women and girls. Gisèle Pelicot is a heroine. May you be inspired by her courage and ask yourself the question Anna Wharton asks in her article: what would you do to an unconscious human?
I’ve also added a video on Tea Consent, in case you haven’t watched it. If you want something easy, skip the article and watch the video. If you want to read an impactful piece of writing, read Anna’s article below.
Thank you, Gisèle and to all the humans using their voice to stop violence against women and girls — and our transgender friends (which I will write about in the future.)
This just introduced me to the trial of Dominique Pelicot, and I felt so many things, plus like throwing up. It's so overwhelming, to think of all the violence. We're no farther along than people were thousands of years ago, in reality. But. At least now we could be using media's stretch to change things- but I've got to say, I don't think it will ever happen, because there's such a disconnect between the adults committing atrocious things, and the way we raise kids. I know several people who are frustrated with how day cares and preschools normalize biting, kicking, pushing, grabbing, rudeness, and hitting- but I know way more people who have bought into the normalization of it, who fail to see the connection, and who think it's more important for very little kids to learn science and math than social-emotional skills- I don't care if a preschool has a poster with feelings on it, I have yet to meet any of them who actually know how to equip a young child with empathy. And quite frankly it's because the majority of people don't have beyond mediocre social-emotional skills themselves, and have never healed their own stuff, don't understand how their own consciousness works, so they don't know what they don't know. And it's so frustrating, the media that's available to my young son- it's a mining expedition to find shows that don't rely on the good fighting evil trope, that have depth to their storylines. It's all too much for any one to carry. So all of you that's are part of the Highest Good of the Collective Consciousness, I hope we all take some counteraction today, that will have ripple effects. I am going to go to Dr. Becky Kennedy's Good Inside forums and see if anyone wants to start an open-source model of a day care and preschool that truly orients around trauma-informed, nervous system aware, social-emotional skills. And I'm going to continue my new program with Adult Children of Alcoholics & Dysfunctional Families to continue re-parenting myself. And be more aware of making sure my son understands that my body is mine, not his, and can empathize with others.
Thank you very much HeatherAsh for sharing this article, I just read it and it’s brilliant. My oldest daughter told me years ago about the performance she mentioned and that had led us to one of many conversations where we, along with her younger sister, ended up shocked by the behaviour of men, those Monsieur Tout le monde. Is this really what a woman inspires them to do when she stands vulnerable in front of them? And what about their ignorance of basic consent. Or their lack of concern around women health. And sadly we are not really surprised because of all the too many examples that surround us or that we have had first hand. You know I live in France, where Gisèle Pelicot’s trial was and all this reflects a rampant kind of misogyny. And not only in France. I could go on and on, but I also want to believe that minds can change. As a mom and woman, I totally agree that those are the things we must think about even if we don’t want to.